Now that I am just about 24 weeks along I am definitely looking more and more pregnant these days. Enough that people who don't even know me are starting to make comments, particularly patients in the ER. Not that I mind, they are usually nice things, such as; Congratulations! Boy or Girl? How exciting! Is this your first? That sort of thing. Last night however I got a few comments that caught me off guard.
The first one was a lady who asked me when I was due, I said December. She said "Oh I know someone who is due in December. She's a lot smaller than you are though." She tells me this just as I am about to stick an IV in her arm. Not smart lady! I said gee thanks, that was really nice of you to say. Of course I said this with only a hint of sarcasm, since I was at work and all. She immediately realized what she said and tried to fix it by saying "Oh I didn't mean anything offensive by that, I just meant that she was very small before she got pregnant." Oh, that makes me feel so much better, thanks for clarifying! (Of course I didn't actually say that.)
So later on during the night, or actually early this morning a 16 year old girl comes in who was assaulted by her boyfriend. She asks me if I am expecting. I tell her yes. (Duh? at this point it's sort of a rhetorical question, esp after the other patient told me how big I was.) She then proceeds to tell me how hard it is going to be, way harder than I think, life will never be the same... etc..etc.... Wait is this 16 year old girl really giving me advice on having a baby? I soon find out that yes she is, and yes she is talking from experience, she had a baby when she was just 15 years old. Poor girl, no wonder it's hard, your still a kid yourself, and clearly not in a good living situation.
I always imagined when I was growing up that I'd be done having kids by the time I was 30. Of course back then 30 seemed really old! It doesn't so much anymore, thankfully. Anyway, here I am 30 and just now having my first baby. I guess I should count my blessings, it sure beats being 30 and having my first baby already in drivers ed.